Jax's Birth Story

Jax's Birth Story

Let me first start off by saying that life with four kids has thrown me for a loop! It seriously took me DAYS to write this post! I really envisioned adding some pics from the birth and maybe even putting together a little video, but some days I don't even get out of my jammies or comb my hair, so that was asking a little too much of myself! :) These days I'm trying to simplify my life as much as possible so this is all I could do for now.  Good thing I wrote Jax's birth story down in my journal right after his birth or else, sad to say, I probably wouldn't remember it too well. That's good in a way, because I can say now that I would do it again...like in 5 years when I don't have three kids under 4! 

I pretty much thought that I would go over my "guess date" because I've never gone into labor with any of my other babies early. My guess date was June 18th. Secretly I wanted him to be born on a even number (or even better the 28th) since all of our birthdays are even numbers.  I guess I'm just weird like that!

When my due date came and went we were trying everything under the sun to get him to come. We ate at Pepper's Cantina a few times, always ordering their spicy salsa and sauce over my enchiladas.  That night I would feel more pressure waves start, but they always stopped when I got up to go to the bathroom.  I really felt like I might be pregnant forever!  I felt a lot of braxton hicks throughout my pregnancy and really wondered what REAL pressure waves would feel like. I knew what labor induced pitocin pressure waves felt like because I was induced with all my other babies.  I even wondered if my body even knew HOW to go into labor on it's own, since I never did with any of my babies. Though, I didn't wait until my babies were past due more than 7 days to give in and say, "Okay, I've been pregnant long enough, let's get started artificially." What was I thinking?! This birth was going to be completely different from my others because we planned to have him at home, in a birthing pool, using hypnobabies to help me have him with no pain medication.  My whole mindset of birth changed throughout the course of my pregnancy and my eyes were opened to all sorts of things that made me feel completely at peace with having my baby at home naturally. I really think it's because I was surrounded by an amazing birth team. Which consisted of my wonderful husband, midwife DyAnna, hypnobabies instructor and doula Kelly, and family and friends that experienced the same thing I was going through. I was so blessed to have these people to help me.

The day of the 27th (yes, 9 days after my guess date) I started having some pressure waves that made me have to stop and bend over and breathe and relax through them. They would come and go throughout the day. Robby and I decided to go on a walk around the track a few times before we went to bed. My Mom was in town with my sister and she offered to come over and and make sure the kids didn't wake up and be home alone, but it was almost 9:30 and I figured they were fast asleep and we would only be a few minutes away. I was pretty uncomfortable and felt lots of pressure as we walked, but nothing too bad that I couldn't handle it. They weren't stopping me in my tracks like earlier in the day. We got home and I felt like things settled down and that it was just another night.

We went to bed around 10 pm and I started having pressure waves. They were little so I tried to rest and see what happened.  I turned on my hypnobabies scripts on my phone and had them playing softly. The pressure started getting more intense that I couldn't sleep, so around 12:30 I got up and got in the warm shower. It felt so good to have the warm water pounding my back.  When I got out of the shower I thought the pressure waves were so intense that I knew we needed to call my midwife and doula. I woke Rob up and he told him I thought it was time to call DyAnna and Kelly. He was like, "Really?! You think it's time?!!" YES it's time! He called DyAnna and I texted Kelly and they both said that they'd be here in 30 minutes. My doula, Kelly, would be bringing her 5 week old baby girl, Jane, with her. It turned out to be a miracle that Jane slept the entire time in the other room and Kelly was able to help me the whole time.  I got on my birthing ball (just my big blue yoga ball) and rested my head on a few pillows on my bed. My hypnobabies track, "Birthing Day Affirmations" was playing in the background. When a pressure wave would come I tried "Ahhhhhing" it out and the breaks between them were so welcoming! I started to feel nauseous and told Rob I was going to throw up. He quickly grabbed the throw up bag that came in my birth kit. Good ol' birth kit! :) After I threw up I hoped I wasn't going to be doing THAT again since that was worse than the pressure waves in my book!

Rob started pushing on my lower back and soon I heard DyAnna and Gina come in my room and begin setting up the birthing pool and getting everything ready. I was thinking, "Wow is this really happening?!" It was 1pm. I think that's the last time I glanced at the clock. Kelly arrived and she began saying hypnobabies scripts to me and massaging my back during the pressure waves. Rob was helping set up the birthing pool now, too. Soon I heard our little 2 1/2 year old come trotting in and he started "helping" set things up. :) The Pressure waves would start in my back and move forward and down to my cervix. It was very intense. I couldn't completely turn myself "off" like I had learned in my hypnobabies classes, but I was relaxing my cervix during the waves so I felt like I was doing great just staying in center. Finally I heard DyAnna say that I could get into the pool after I emptied my bladder. She helped me up and into the bathroom and there I had some really intense waves. I was hanging onto DyAnna for dear life during the waves. I finally got into the birthing pool and it felt SOOO good!! I leaned over the side and held onto Rob as each pressure wave came.  Little Knox was now in the living room watching Toy Story. He would come in and out to see what was going on. Kelly and DyAnna helped push on my back and pour warm water on my back. Soon I felt my water break. I felt a "POP" and gush of fluid come rushing out and I told everyone what had just happened. After that the pressure waves came stronger and closer and I could feel Jax's head moving down and my body stretching. It started stinging and the pressure was SO intense!!! Finally, his little head came popping out and I reached down and felt his head and all his hair! I use the word "pop" because it really felt like that! DyAnna said that his little hand was up by his face. The pressure was like having a HUGE bowel movement. My body was pushing him out without me really doing anything. It was Amazing! I was very vocal saying "Ahhhhh" through all the waves and keeping my focus on relaxing.  I needed Rob right there in front of me. I thought I was going to wake up the other kids because I was so loud. :) I kept saying, "Oh my goodness!" DyAnna told me to now close my mouth and push him out. I felt his body slide out and DyAnna was telling me to reach down and pick up my baby!  I looked down and saw him in the water! I picked him up and put him to my chest. He was perfect.  His round little face, chubby little cheeks and dark head of hair. "Look at you!" was all I could say, over and over again!! I couldn't believe he was here. He had THICK white vernix (white creamy good stuff) all over his back. He was born at 3:20 am on the 28th!! My favorite number and the day Knox and I was born! :) I thought it was special that his little brother Knox was there to see him be born!

I got up out of the pool to deliver the placenta. I kept holding Jax and he was so happy to be in my arms.  He was grunting but never screaming or crying. I was helped into bed and DyAnna checked me to see if I had any tears. NO TEARS!! Just a tiny little paper cut on the side where Jax's little hand was up by his face. It was amazing!  Jax was still attached to my placenta while DyAnna showed us how big it was! It was a huge, healthy placenta. After awhile Rob cut the umbilical cord and Jax was already trying to make his way to start nursing. He was so alert. He started nursing and was doing so well. Awhile later, he was weighed and measured and checked out by DyAnna. He was perfect as can be! 10 pounds 2 ounces and 22 inches long! Such a big boy!

I was able to get up and get in the shower really quick to get cleaned up. Kelly made me a yummy egg salad sandwich that I gobbled down. It was so good!  Everyone had everything cleaned up and put away and said they'd be back to check on us soon.  We all were able to get a few hours of sleep before the older kids came into our room and were excited to see their new baby brother!  The rest of the day we had family visitors and lots of resting!  I was still in shock that Jax was finally here, healthy and happy and I was already at home in my own bed. I never felt so good! I never knew how far I was dilated or effaced because I was never checked throughout my pregnancy or during my birthing time.  I am thankful for that, too! It was an amazing experience and I am blessed that during the whole thing I never felt nervous or scared. I was at peace and was able to relax and let my body do what it was designed to do. I wouldn't do it any other way!


hello skirts...

My little 3 1/2 year old, miss O, loves church. She asks me every night when I tuck her in how many more days until church day!  I'm already sick of pregnancy pants and dread the thought of putting them on everyday, so..... hello skirts!!! I love skirts. I wish I had a dozen maxi skirts to choose from. They are sooooo comfy. So, now that I'm wearing skirts everyday miss O thinks it's church day and gets all excited.  Then I have to tell her there's 5 more days until church day. :( 
I've gained more weight with this baby than I have with the others and I'm not even done yet. Yikes! I just keep telling myself that I'll have extra fat stores for breastfeeding and this time around is going to WORK out for us. :) I hope so. Rob keeps telling me, also, that he's signing us both up for Cross fit after the baby is born. I'm all for it, if he can afford it! HA!  He shows me his "chub" on his belly and I just roll my eyes at him. Mr. 4 percent body fat my eye!

On to baby boy... that doesn't have a name yet and I'm starting to freak out a little bit. Here's a list of boy names that I've told Rob about and since they're here on this list that tells you he said     N  O     to them....(might be able to talk him into one of them...we'll see)

I went to Dr. Lunt's office for my second ultrasound and got to see this cute face! 
I think he is already adorable and we can't wait to meet him.  He's been in the same, head down-squished into my left side with his feet and hands poking my right side, position. He's had the hiccups a few times. He responds to pokes and big brother sitting on him trying to get comfy around the big "balloon" in my tummy.  I've heard miss O tell her little brother to be quiet or he'll wake the boy in mom's belly! The kids are so excited for this new one to come. :) 
Everything the ultrasound confirmed is that baby boy is measuring right on with my new guess date in June and he's growing just as he should be. Thank goodness! 
We're now in the maintenance part of Hypnobabies and I enjoy the 30 minutes of "me time" when the kids go to bed. It's been such a great childbirth class!  I'm so glad that Kelly, the instructor, is able to be my doula and I feel like I have such great support all around me. My midwife and doula, along with Rob, are all going to be so helpful during my birthing time. :)  

This week I'm 32 weeks. Just a month left until I have to get the preparations ready to have a home birth!


What color should I paint my front door?

Here's our front door! 
I have always wanted to paint my front door turquoise, of course.  I have left over turquoise paint from when we first moved into our house. I bought a gallon just because I loved that I was in my own house that I could paint whatever color I wanted! And that is why that's my go-to color when re-painting something because I have OODLES of it! :)  I also have left over gray paint that we used to paint the bunk beds with.   So, I painted a scrap piece of wood turquoise and gray and put it by the front door to see which one looked better....

and don't you love my hand-made NO soliciting sign! ;)  I bought a vinyl no soliciting sign about a year ago that is WHITE so I need my front door to be a color for it to show up! :) And don't mind my sun faded wreath that needs some TLC.

Here's a picture of my dream home...
This home was a parade of homes this year and we didn't pay to walk through it, but we drove past a few times because I'm obsessed with it! I LOVE the gray, white and stone together. I wish I could snap my fingers and my house would look like this! It's gorgeous. It reminds me of a home up north and NOT the normal stucco St. G home. It also has a few pine trees in the front that I love, too. Okay, I could go on and on about why I love this home...but the kids are bugging me to go turn on the sprinklers in the backyard. It's 10 am, mind you, and they think it's 100 degrees outside.

Okay, here's my front porch...
Too much beige and brown and STUCCO going on!

If we went with turquoise, then I would have to have different colored chairs on the front porch. There would be too much blue going on! :) 
If we went with gray, we could keep the blue chairs but I would paint that circle thingy hanging on the stucco white or another color. Also, I would paint my house numbers gray or white to match. ;) 
But would gray be too dark? 

So what do you think?!  :) Turquoise or gray? 

Now I better go find my kids because it's very quiet and that's very unusual.


Could my dates be off?

I'm 28 weeks! And before I get ahead of myself....IT'S A BOY! Finally, after poking and turning on my side,  our little peanut moved his legs so we could see that yes indeed, we have another little boy coming to our family! :) Olive and I were a little sad because we for sure thought it was a girl, but we are happy to have a healthy baby boy come to our family! She still wants him to sleep in her room and she will love dressing him up in tutus and painting his nails like her other little brother. She will be the best big sister because she loves to help and loves babies!

Apparently, I skipped a whole 4 weeks of pregnancy and didn't even know it. :) Woo Hoo! I went in for what I thought was my 20 week ultrasound and half way through she said, "Could your dates be off? Your baby is measuring 24 weeks!" She said that she would like Dr. Lunt to come in and check things out so she left to go find him. I was a little worried because I was pretty sure that my "period" in October was a period, but then again it was shorter and lighter than normal. With all the other kids I always had bleeding and that's why with all of them I have had ultrasounds very early on to make sure they were still okay. Dr. Lunt came in and he said that just by looking at me he thought I looked more like a 24 week pregnant lady! :) He checked the ultrasound and told us that all the measurements taken were measuring 24 weeks so that was a good sign that my dates are off and nothing is wrong with our growing baby. Whew! He wanted us to schedule another ultrasound in April just to make sure dates were still consistent. He told me to check with my midwife to ask her what my measurements were at my last two appointments to confirm things too.
I called DyAnna and told her the news and asked her what my measurements were at my first two appointments. She told me that I was measuring 3-4 weeks bigger than usual, but that she wasn't too worried about it because she knew I was having an ultrasound and that would tell us more than what I was measuring. A lot of things just made a lot more sense...no wonder I felt sick so early and started showing and feeling movements at 12 or 13 weeks.

I started my Hypnobabies class two weeks ago and I LOVVVEEEE it!  When I paid my deposit for the class our instructor gave us the first disc to listen to. Alternating listening to them everyday with "Your Special Place" and "Comfortable Childbirth" until our class started. I love the way it relaxes me and gives me some "me" time during the day.  At times it feels like my arms and legs aren't even attached to my body and I'm so comfortable. Other times I am fidgety and itchy and it's hard to completely relax and sometimes I even fall asleep half way through the disc! And that's okay! I'm just making sure that I'm listening to the track I'm supposed to everyday and doing my homework. :)
Class is long (three hours), but it really goes by quickly. I'm now listening to "Joyful Pregnancy Affirmations" everyday and alternating between the "Deepening"track and the script Robby reads to me. Learning the self-Hypnosis finger drop technique and turning my switch OFF and to the CENTER has been so cool! I love it. It's all very relaxing and positive. I look forward to my classes. :)


20 Week Appointment...

Today I am 23 weeks! Next thursday at 9 am we have an appointment at Dr. Lunt's office to have an ultrasound. :) I'm so excited!!

My 20 week appointment I had was supposed to be the end of January, but because my Midwife was sick and so was her whole family it was pushed to the first week in February. I was a little thrown off by the cancellations and with other things stressing me out I had to tell her that I couldn't pay in full by that appointment (you could get a discount if you're able to pay in full by the second prenatal) and it sounded like she wasn't going to be able to visit me in my home unless I paid in full. I was very confused! One of the reasons I chose DyAnna was because she could come to my home! I wouldn't have to throw everyone in the car and drive 30 minutes to her house. I know it's not that big of deal, but I like that option. Anyway, I was worried that she would tell me that I'd have to start coming to her house, but when she came for my appointment and we started talking everything smoothed itself out! She was under the impression that I wasn't going to be able to pay her the full amount EVER! LOL! Really, some people stiff their midwives!? I assured her that I wasn't going to do that to her.

The appointment went really well. Rob took the kiddos to the skatepark and that meant a quiet house for me! :) YAY! My levels (blood sugar, protein, etc) all looked good BUT I had gained a TON of weight since my last appointment and that worried me. I usually gain about 30-40 pounds total when I'm pregnant, but I don't remember gaining a lot in the first few months with my other pregnancies. I hope I can get myself eating better and moving more these next months ahead.
We listened to the heartbeat again and it was 162. DyAnna said she thinks it's a girl, too! :) I hope so! We heard that our Baby cousin that is due right before me is a BOY, when for sure for sure for sure we thought it was a girl! I'm not so sure I believe in the fast heartbeats are girls and slower are boys wives tale. But, it was true with my other kids so I'm not sure! We'll find out next week.

We celebrated Lach's sixth birthday over the weekend! It was so fun. We decided way before his birthday that this year we were going to have a family party instead of a friend party. He wasn't too happy at first about it, but I told him we could do fun things throughout the day. Anti-gravity and bowling were his two fun places that he wanted to go! It was such a fun day because Grammy, Popa and Nessi came down from up north! Nana and Uncle Troy came bowling with us too, and later that night we had Grandma and Grandpa Sharp over and ordered pizza! What a lucky boy! His "trick" birthday candles on the cake were the highlight of the night. He COULD NOT blow them out. It was hilarious!! :) I'll upload the video as soon as I get it off Rob's phone. :)
So until then here's my growing belling! .....

{12 weeks and 22 weeks}